In my recent post about humility, I observed that awareness of my eventual death helps me be less prideful and more humble. Shortly after completing that post, I read a quote in Andy Tix’s blog discussing another benefit of thinking about death. The quote was from Steve Jobs’ 2005 commencement address at Stanford University. Jobs said the following:
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
The point is a good one: the thought of our mortality renders many of our preoccupations meaningless or trivial. Jobs mentions being freed not only from pride but from a variety of other constraints. Anticipating death releases us from many of our fears—fears of what others may think, of our own discomfort or shame, of failure. It is a scalpel that cuts away what is unimportant.
Jobs seems to have confidence that, once liberated from pride and fear, we’ll be able to discover what is truly important. Later in his Stanford speech, Jobs gave the following advice:
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Jobs seems to be saying that recognition of what is important comes from within us. Gestalt therapist Fritz Perls referred to this as the “wisdom of the organism.” Other humanistic psychologists have roughly the same understanding of our inner nature. Thus, Carl Rogers claimed that “There is in every organism, at whatever level, an underlying flow of movement toward constructive fulfillment of its inherent possibilities.” Abraham Maslow wrote, “If it [i.e. our inner nature] is permitted to guide our life, we grow healthy, fruitful, and happy.” Jobs seems to agree that we possess an inner compass that serves as a prescient guide to how we should live.
It’s easy to think of counter-instances—people who followed their heart and intuition into a state of ruin. The humanists might object that such individuals weren’t truly attending to their inner nature; there’s probably no way to determine whether such people were or weren’t. As for Steve Jobs, his heart always led him in a particular direction. Something about his nature repeatedly drove him to design innovative and user-friendly electronics. Malcolm Gladwell, writing in the New Yorker about Walter Isaacson’s biography of Jobs, suggests that Jobs’ gift was not as an inventor but as a tweaker—someone who took existing technology and refined it. The Macintosh,, the iPod, the iPhone, and the iPad were not original, but were improvements on products or concepts already in existence. Jobs’ passion for creating the perfect phone or computer is much appreciated by millions of Apple devotees.
It’s hard to know whether what Jobs did was truly important; those who look back on his contributions in fifty or a hundred years will be in a much better position than we are to assess that. He was certainly consistent in pursuing what he thought mattered in life, though. The tendency to devote himself to the minutia of products, fussing with them until he was satisfied, persisted into his final days. Gladwell, citing Isaacson’s account, reports that, as he was dying, Jobs repeatedly poured over the plans for Apple’s new headquarters building, changing the details again and again until they pleased him. Then, in the hospital for the final time and deeply sedated, he ripped off the oxygen mask that the pulmonologist put on his face, mumbling that it was poorly designed and he wouldn’t wear it. What mattered to Jobs was the well-designed and perfectly functional object, and he pursued it to the last.










